Every woman has a vagina.  And every woman’s vagina is unique. There are however some facts that every woman should know about the body part that we probably hold in the highest esteem secondary only to our faces.


rose boquetVulvas Vary

There is no right or wrong ‘look’.  The vulva are the outer lips of your vaginal area and every woman’s vulva is different. You might have plump aka phat, curvy or thin vulva. Embrace your shape – all vulva are beautiful and unless you are in discomfort or a porn star, there‘s no reason to consider labiaplasty (vaginal rejuvenation surgery).  Also, do not be daunted by the musings of “fat pum-pum” by men who are probably more talk than action.


peePee Is for Penis

Men urinate through their penis. However, we do not pee through our vagina. Your bladder empties through the urethral opening, which is under the clitoris and above the vaginal opening.

Your vagina is a two way street but it is also a cul-de-sac. The vagina leads to the womb and nowhere else. Anything entering your vagina cannot access anywhere else in your body. If you lose something in your vagina you can retrieve it but never use any kind of tool. And always, always remember to take out the last tampon of your period, otherwise you put yourself at great risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome and run the risk of been crowned “nasty gyal” by all and sundry.  A dubious honour.


drooping flowerCollapse

Yes, your vagina can “fall out.” In what is known as a pelvic prolapse, your vagina can invert and descend between your legs. But no need to fret – it can be corrected. But geez, can you imagine?



ONE TIME ONLY!Like a Virgin

Allegedly, once it’s gone, it stays gone. Though I know some people have lost their virginity multiple times; losing your virginity is a one-time only offer. Losing your virginity refers to the breaking of the hymen, the membrane that partially closes the vagina – and yes, it can be broken by things other than penile penetration, but you remain a virgin until your first act of sexual intercourse.



Your vagina is a muscle and contracts and stretches just like other muscles. And just like other muscles, if you don’t use them, you lose them. Regular sex is enough of a workout, but post-menopause, the fragile vaginal tissue is prone to scarring and shrinking, so if you’re a lady of a certain age and don’t have a partner for a prolonged period of time, it is best to invest in a battery-operated boyfriend. Ouch.



While on the subject of muscles, the vagina muscle is incredibly stretchy for birthing. Some women experience a feeling of looseness after having children. If your vagina isn’t as tight as you like, or is suffering from being a bit loose after you’ve had kids, Kegel exercises can do wonders. You can begin your Kegel routine by contracting and relaxing 10 times for 3 sets a few times a day. If you’re not sure, try to stop the flow of urine when you pee – that will demonstrate exactly what you need to be doing.  Also, do not fall prey to men who are less than blessed and who specialize in preaching the gospel of the big pum-pum.


doucheDouche or Nah?

There is no need to douche.  If you are douching because you have a strong odor or discharge, it could be the sign of an infection, instead of reaching for a douche bottle, seek medical advice right now!




You are not abnormal if you need to use lubricant during sex and many women experience this as they age. I pray this never happens to me.  But, a dry vagina can make sex uncomfortable and a real turn off. There are plenty of lubricants – synthetics like KY Jelly or natural ones like Astroglide, which is made from coconut oil. You can also turn your dry problem into fun by using flavored lubes.  Coconut oil out fi get scarce now, lol.



You should not feel pain when you have sex. One of the obvious facts about your vagina is that it is specifically designed for sex. That is its function. Don’t put up with painful sex and do not suffer in silence – change partners and/or see your gynecologist or MD.  I know that in some factions of our culture there is a philosophy that dictates that sex must be painful, seriously, this is foolishness.


St Ann WaterEjaculation

Female ejaculation is the subject of much controversy. Yes, females ejaculate. If you’ve never experienced this, no, you’re not abnormal. There are two explanations of female ejaculation. If your ejaculation is a small amount and of a milky consistency, it is likely a discharge from the paraurethral glands in response to orgasm. If it is a decent amount it is more likely to be urine caused by contractions of the bladder. In many cases it is a combination of both.


St Ann WaterfallsOrgasms

Not every woman experiences orgasm and few attain it purely from penetration. Orgasm is usually generated by clitoral stimulation either with the fingers or finding the perfect position during penetration. Supposedly, the reason the rabbit vibrator is so successful is because it provides the perfect combination of penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time.



Your vagina is precious and you should treat it with the utmost respect. You can contract sexually transmitted diseases and infections even if you use condoms. During sex, the vulva are exposed to and come into contact with your partner’s genital area and scrotum, which may be infected with herpes, genital warts, chlamydia or worse. Rule – choose your partners carefully and seek medical help at the very first sign of any symptoms of an STD.

HealthySexSex Is Healthy

Safe sex is good for you. Sex can put a smile on your face but it can also reduce your risk of heart disease, bolster your immune system, reduce your risk of breast cancer, improve your fitness, help you sleep, lower stress levels, make you appear more youthful and improve your self esteem.  This is not to say that if you are promiscuous you are healthier and more youthful looking than your contemporaries; in fact, your promiscuity might guarantee quite the opposite.



In recent times there have been more options for vaginal enhancement.  There’s a multitude of choices if you want to “decorate” your vagina – waxing, piercing, tattooing, and shaving. Your choice! But please, don’t o.d.  This is one of those parts of the bodies where “less is more” should be your mantra.


Natural-Skin Wrinkles

As we age, our vaginas can develop wrinkles especially as we near age 50. This happens simply because our skin loses muscle tone and the labia changes in appearance. It becomes less plump, because less estrogen is being produced in the body. The labia are the fatty pads of the vagina that house collagen. Collagen is the fibers of the skin that show wrinkles, or help us look youthful. When estrogen decreases, collagen production dissipates, which leads to wrinkles.